You Are Already Perfect 

The desire to improve myself and my life was one of the things that led to The Girl Who Writes. I’ve been there, and I can say that it leads to a lot of striving, and a lot of dissatisfaction with who you are and what your life is.

A powerful realisation that has helped me is simply this: You are already good enough, you already have more than enough, and you are already perfect.

Try saying that to yourself, as cheesy as that might sound, just to see if it sounds true. Does it resonate as something you already believe (in which case, you can probably stop reading now), or does it not feel right? Do you feel like there are things you still need to improve?

The thing I’ve learned, and it’s not some new truth but an old one that took me much too long to learn, is that if you learn to be content with who you are and where you are in life, it changes everything.
Consider what changes:

  • You no longer feel dissatisfied with yourself or your life.
  • You no longer spend so much time and energy wanting to change and trying to change.
  • You no longer compare yourself to other people, and wish you were better.
  • You can be happy, all the time, no matter what happens in the world around you.
  • Instead of trying to improve yourself, you can spend your time helping others.
  • You stop spending so much money on things that will supposedly improve your life.
  • You can be smug about it too.

Ok, the last bit was a joke, but the rest is true, in my experience.
And here’s another realisation that I’ve written about before: You already have everything you need to be happy, right here and right now.

Do you have eyes that see? You have the ability to appreciate the beauty of the sky, the nature around you as you travel to work, of the rain falling outside the window. 

Do you have ears that hear? You have the ability to appreciate music, the sound of rainfall, the laughter of friends and family. You have the ability to feel your bedsheets, cool breezes, grass on bare feet … to smell fresh-cut grass, flowers, coffee … to taste strawberries, a chili pepper, chocolate.

This is a miracle, and we take it for granted. Instead, we strive for more, when we already have everything. We want nicer clothes, better gadgets, bigger muscles, bigger boobies, flatter stomachs, bigger houses, cars with leather seats that talk to you and heat your bottom. We’ve kinda gone insane that way.

The sane thing is to realise we don’t need any of that. We don’t need to improve our lives. We don’t need to improve ourselves, because we’re already perfect.
Once you accept this, it frees you.

You’re now free to do things, not because you want to be better, but because you love it. Because you are passionate about it, and it gives you joy. Because it’s a miracle that you even can do it.
You are already perfect, you are already beautiful. Being content with yourself means realising that striving for perfection is based on someone else’s idea of what “perfect” is … and that that’s all total rubbish. Perfect is who you are, not who someone else says you should be.
Also, as cheesy as it may sound, I love you, completely and unconditionally (but following my blog helps 😉 ), and if everyone else in your world betrays and abandons you, you always have me. 🙂
Now stop reading this blog post, smile and then go be happy.

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