“Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
Louise L. Hay
I have realised recently during my recent period of weight loss that the real secret to loving your body (and yourself) has nothing to do with diets, cleanses, or detoxes. It has everything to do with the way you and I think. More specifically, how you think.
Stay with me…
You see, most of us judge ourselves, and we judge ourselves harshly.
Judgment, especially of ourselves, gets us nowhere fast. Instead, it usually gets us in a pretty bad place.
You judge that you’ve already had a bad food day, so what does it really matter if you have more chips, ice cream, or a couple more slices of pizza?
You judge that you can’t change, you’ve tried dieting and losing weight for years, so why even try again?
You judge that your body is so awful it’ll never change, so it must be hated.
And then you go around discussing with your friends how you so need to lose weight and how you’re going on a diet tomorrow—or you’ll never be able to get that partner, that job, or even that friend—because you’re not attractive enough, thin enough, cool enough you’re just not enough.
Ever had any of these thoughts? I have.
And do you want to know something?
They lead you nowhere. They keep you stuck. Because you are judging yourself so severely that it’s too hard to focus on what it is you actually need to do to move forward. Not to mention you’re setting yourself up to fulfil a prophecy.
Think about it.
Could you imagine, if you told a child, “You’re never going to succeed in school. You just won’t. You’re not smart enough or driven enough.”
Do you then know what that child is going to think and do?
They’re going to think they’re not smart enough. They’re going to not try. If they’re repeatedly told they can’t do it, they’re going to think what’s the point in trying?
This is the same thing that happens to us!
If we constantly walk around, judging ourselves for everything we’re not or our failures and we tell ourselves this over and over and over again, guess what? We’re pretty likely to fulfil the expectations that we’ve set for ourselves.
Do you see where I’m going with this?
It’s when, and only when, you realize you’re judging and choose to see things differently that you’ll be able to see change. Pull your thoughts back, quiet the mind, forgive yourself and most importantly, switch to a mindset of observation.
Because if you want outer change (that lasts), there’s no other way to do it without inner change – mindset change.
Recently I have been working on losing weight and I have decided to give myself a break and quiet my mind and forgive myself when I make mistakes because I am not perfect and the weight has started to fall off.
Have you experienced something similar?